I apologize for being quiet for a year, 2018 was a lot about self reflecting on my end.
What do I REALLY want to do? How will I let others impact me? Am I getting closer to my goals? What really are my goals in life? the list goes on and on..
I am lucky enough to say that 2018 was actually a fantastic year. This was MY year of self reflection, taking action, self-love, focusing on my health & lastly, saying no to things that don’t impact me in a positive way.
If you read my post in regards to The Law of Attraction, you can tell that manifestation has really taken over my life for the last 2 years. Practicing the LOA and incorporating it to my day to day has helped me tremendously. However, there has been a topic I have read about before that I hadn’t really mastered in my life: Mindfulness.
I feel comfortable in saying we as women, have a tendency of telling ourselves that we are over-thinkers, too emotional/not emotional enough, pushovers, always give more in relationships, always love first -
Why do we do this? Why do we let others opinions really impact us when the reality is, this is just who we are. I AM emotional. I will cry when talking about things I am passionate about. I am incredibly sensitive. I always give more, even if it isn’t reciprocated.
It’s time we accept the emotions that come through our bodies and be OKAY with it. It’s time we say “ You know what, I tried a lot harder in that friendship/relationship than I should have and it’s fine that it didn’t work out”.
Accepting our feelings is the first step to Mindfulness.
Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing lens. - greatergood.com
Practicing Mindfulness isn’t always easy, especially when you first start out. The hardest part about this all is practicing it. As you start to practice, give yourself some credit knowing that this might take time and that is okay.
Here are some steps that I follow from Mindful.com
Take a seat. Find a place to sit that feels calm and quiet to you.
Set a time limit. If you’re just beginning, it can help to choose a short time, such as 5 or 10 minutes.
Notice your body. You can sit in a chair with your feet on the floor, you can sit loosely cross-legged, in lotus posture, you can kneel—all are fine. Just make sure you are stable and in a position you can stay in for a while.
Feel your breath. Follow the sensation of your breath as it goes out and as it goes in.
Notice when your mind has wandered. Inevitably, your attention will leave the sensations of the breath and wander to other places. When you get around to noticing this—in a few seconds, a minute, five minutes—simply return your attention to the breath.
Be kind to your wandering mind. Don’t judge yourself or obsess over the content of the thoughts you find yourself lost in. Just come back.
If you do decide to give this a shot, please comment below and tell me about your experience. Working on this and talking about this only makes implementing it more powerful.